Understand Others through Understanding Ourselves: The Power of Personality Psychology

Human is not without conflict. It is because human is a social creatures and the need for communication is enormous. I am not someone who actually have an expertise in psychology. But to know that understanding of this unique field that explore human behavior could immensely contribute subconsciously to the way we are living our lives, the way we deal with problem, the way we solve conflict, the way we perceive others and finally the way we see ourselves.

Let alone the seemingly never ending conflict of two world of introvert and extrovert. One could get fired just because extrovert boss do not understand their subordinate introvert by thinking that he do not like to work with him because he seems not friendly and outgoing. The impact of realizing the existence of different personality could better clear the unspoken expression of human nature.

A person next to me do not think like I do, but it doesn’t mean that he is wrong.

As a regular person who is not an expert in psychology, I find out learning about some of personal psychology model substantially changed the way I see the surrounding in a good manner. There are a vast array of personality models, but here, I would like to share only some personal psychology models that I use and which I found practically useful.

4 –Quadrant Personality Models

A practical use is 4 quadrant model which comprises several models. The famous among 4 quadrant model that is for me really helpful are Human Nature Model, DISC, Merrill Reid Model.

The function of this model as I benefit from it is that we can look at how we or other persons around us base on their driven nature.

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This model is undeniably famous in business, whether to screen potential employee, in education, or for development of current employee. It really is useful in many circumstances to better understand us and our team partners in terms of their behavior.

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Another complementary of DISC model is Merrill Reid model which focus more toward social styles or how people actually behave or act. Unlike the previous one which concentrate somehow more inner being of a person, this is really concentrate on the act the a person does. It is helpful to know this model to be able to read your team partners and their favorite acts as to use them fully in the fields that they most enjoyable in doing it.

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Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a more complex model but also useful in addition to the previous model. It is about how people perceive the world and make decisions. The MBTI focuses on normal populations and emphasizes the value of naturally occurring differences. However, I really find that the 4 quadrant concepts are all rather simple to be applied as it is not too complex and really focus on being use more toward working with others.

Without the existence of these models to help us understand others and to learn to see the other person’s behavior from a different set of eyes, there will be many misunderstanding among people. Too often we view other people from our own eyes and our own frame of reference. The key to success is to understand there are many ways to approach work and they are all effective. Each of us has a preference for an approach that works best for us individually without regard for what will work best for another person. But actually in believing that our way is the best without understanding other persons perspective will only destroy team performance.

What else increases productivity : Brain Tweaking!

I could  agree when the crowd mainstream shout for so long that psychology is a degree that apparently not so useful in the job market. Just take a look at yahoo answersocial anxiety forum, until student awards. Most of the graduates indeed found their job have a little or no relation at all to the degree they obtained. Psychology even included in 20 most useless degrees in a famous blog the Daily Beast.

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People who don’t intend on becoming Psychologists or working in the field as a mental health professional shouldn’t pursue degree’s in Psychology.

Somehow, I felt that the quote above is right to the point and contain a bitter pain fact that should be accepted by those who hold first degree in psychology. However, I always captivated to watch an expert in psychology shows their understanding and ability to understand human.

When psychology combined with TED Talks, it’s exactly my guilty pleasure. Who wouldn’t like to watch TED with all the inspiring persons talk about how we can actually improve our self, our community, and even not surprisingly our world. This week, I came across a video which lighten up my mind and open my view into another eye opening fact about increasing productivity through the use of Neuropsychology.

Improving your brain means everything in your life start from your body, to your money, your relationships, to the level of innovation.

Daniel Amen, a psychologist gave a TEDx Talk about what impact a healthy brain has on innovation that human produced. He revealed a study about brain using a sophisticated brain scan study that looks at brain blood flow and activity pattern to figure out at how brain is working and what it can bring to human productivity.

His thesis is simple that healthy brain makes us happier, wealthier, wiser, more creative, more innovative whereas unhealthy brain will bring sadder, sicker, poorer, not as smart, rigid and inflexibility to us.

We can accelerate the aging process with our behavior and you can decelerate it. It works the same with innovation. ~ Daniel Amen

What is interesting about his talk is that he presented about some activity that could lead to unproductivity. I was so amazed when I saw the video because not only he mentioned the kind of activities, but also the reason why. It turns out that obesity damage brain function in a way that as the weight goes up, the actual physical size and function of our brain goes down. Additionally, smoking and high blood pressure also very important to monitor. High pressure causing low flow blood to brain and smoking cause upnormal blood flow.

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Below, is the quick summary from Daniel Amen talks about what kind of activities we should have to enhance productivity by means of making our brain healthier.

WHAT ENHANCE YOUR BRAIN ?

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These powerful recipe will guide us to a more effective journey toward gaining more productivity. In fact, I started to apply some of the techniques given by his TEDx Talks and in the near future I will let all of you fellow travelers know about my journey on this one.

! Book Review ( The Dip )

The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick)The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit by Seth Godin
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

I happened to read this book in the right time when i need to have a kind of encouragement in my down time. The book is short and the content is for me contain familiar motivations and not so many novel ideas. However, sometimes even ordinary things that come in the right moment became so attractive and inspiring.

Besides of the right reading timing that I have experienced. I really like how the ordinary motivational wisdoms being described with an extraordinary way using analogies like The Dip, The Cul De Sac, and the Cliff.

It makes the concept more understandable, easy to absorb and fit just right to be put into my long term memory.

The book is also short and I finished it in less than 4 hours.

The take point of the book is aim for the best, know when to quit, and think thoroughly before entering.

Its strength that makes everyone should read this book is the pages which are few, well described content using analogies, and took less time to read. Hence, this book is really good to read almost anywhere to keep us motivated.

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Finding Your Job and Your Passion, Finding your trueself.

Passion is a very interesting topic to talk. It is interesting because of its nature that is dynamic. Recently, I saw a video from TEDx Talk that really point out a unique point of view as well as delivering inspirational statement about passion.

DON’T JUST FOLLOW YOUR PASSION.

It is the title of the video. It is so controversial that urge me to start clicking at the play button. I watched it, and what is most  intriguing for me is that of her explanation that following passion is a new phenomena that people in the old days were never really anxious about not finding their own passion. Unlike recent generation which are often asked to follow their passion without actually knowing the way “how”. I don’t say that following passion is bad, it is the reverse. But it is interested to know what went wrong in our process of finding our passion.

It is so compelling for me that the concept of finding passion being put in a different context as what currently perceived by the mass. It explained that passion is something that you are looking for that makes you “move” yourself intrinsically and that with passion you find yourself in a meaningful state. Interestingly, the well known phrase of your job is your passion is not totally right.

First of all, if you are lucky, your job “IS” your passion. It is because for some people, they will find their passion LATER in their life. She even mentioned in the video that one woman find her passion in the age of 40s. So, in this case you couldn’t really say that the woman was not looking for her passion during his 40 years of life. She might looked for it intensely without ever bumped into what she considered as her passion. But what she did meanwhile she tried to find her passion? She works for a living. That’s just the way it is.

But don’t ever stop to find your passion. Because you will indeed find it, and find the right one. Because in other case, some people  will find their passion in life, but by one or many things they are led to leave that passion.

What happen to those people? It turns out, the presented give an unbelievable explanation of why people could forced to leave their passion as well as how one could at the end find a new one.

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So, there in the diagram you will find that those people that forced to leave their passion will be those who have passion that unfortunately did not meet community needs. It is disappointing indeed that in reality you are unconsciously force to leave the things that you are passionate about. But beware of this, it will not stop there. You could still find a passion that will meet community needs shown as “potential” field in the diagram.

Hence, the old lady that finally find her passion might have previously found another 1000 passions that were simply not met with community needs and forced to abandoned it. But in her 40s, she finally finds the right one. Thus, I thoroughly believe, if all of us keep searching for one passion that meeting with community needs and are not thinking about if you don’t have your job the same as your passion and you are not happy and doomed, we will at the end find it.

So, the key take point is this:

KEEP SEARCHING FOR THE ONE THING THAT YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT THAT ALSO MEET COMMUNITY NEEDS AND YOU WILL BE SURE THAT YOU HAVE IT YOUR WHOLE LIFE.